Archive for the ‘Relationships’ Category

Happiness and having kids? Do they mix?

Friday, April 11th, 2008

…I have no doubt that there are parents who reflexively rank parenthood as their No. 1 joy in life because they think they’re supposed to. On the other hand, there’s a big difference between finding happiness in parenting and finding happiness in every minute of every day spent caring for kids. Parenthood can be intense and exhausting, hilarious and tedious, all in the same day; and 1-year-olds don’t always make the best conversationalists. But the satisfaction of parenthood isn’t something you can take apart, rating each little task to come up with an average “happiness score.” Like all relationships, raising kids is too complex for that…

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Why am I alone? Oops, wrong question for finding happiness

Friday, April 11th, 2008

When I lived in the country one summer an ad for a local dating service would come on the radio every time I drove around.

“But I’m as pretty and interesting and nice as my friends. Why am I single?” a petulant voice would say. Then an announcer would cut in and tell her to go to speed-shuffle date night; her friends would soon be choking with envy, he’d imply, and each time I’d think, ‘Yeah, right.’

Okay, she existed in drive-time and was doomed to lament her situation every 15 minutes, but that wasn’t what made me doubt that she was heading toward paired happiness. It was the question. She was asking the wrong one.

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What is happiness? Sex, love and the push-up bra

Tuesday, April 8th, 2008

You may have caught that little news factoid recently that stipulated sex might just be a cure for the female blues. Which is good news really (especially for the gents trying to cheer up their surly ladies) considering a whopping estimated 800,000 Aussies suffer from depression each year. So what better antidote could there be for the blues (other than chocolate) than getting frisky between the sheets?

“Having sex helps them feel that closeness and security,” surmises Dr Sabura Allen, clinical psychologist and the lead researcher in the Monash University study.

The findings revealed that women associate sex with love (much to the horror of male booty-call buddies!).

The study also discovered that, surprisingly, single women have less sex than single men, which makes you wonder who all these men are getting it on with in the first place …

Two blokes, David Blanchflower, a Dartmouth College economist, and Andrew Oswald of the University of Warwick in England, undertook a similar survey. They polled 16,000 people and found that sex is so important to happiness, we should be increasing it’s frequency from once a month to once a week, (hear that folks?). Adding fuel to the more-sex debate is the fact that the happiness generated from the increased hanky-panky is equivalent to being told you’re getting a $50,000 raise on your income!

Economists have also calculated that a lasting marriage equates to the happiness generated by getting an extra $100,000 each year. (Divorce depletes happiness levels equivalent to losing $66,000 annually.)

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